So what do I want?
A good love. A safe love.
One of the first songs I wrote was about that kind of love:
I feel relaxed in my center
steady and centered
at ease with being me
I feel unmasked in my center
ready from my center
to reach and still be free
steady in your center
relaxed in your center
being yourself with me
I can hear the song in my head. It hasn't been recorded - so many songs.
I do have it my book of love poems, True Love Poems.
That song, by the way, isn't just about being all warm and fuzzy and profoundly safe. It's about passion. My sense: the deepest passion comes when there is, for both people, the safety to be oneself.
I've had a lot to learn about feeling safe enough in myself to be fully open - and also accepting the other instead of always wanting to improve them. So much to learn. Not book learning. Much deeper learning.
That quest to have the capacity to have a deep love relationship - one of the biggest quests of my life. And there is the connected quest - to meet that other with whom to have such a relationship.
Anyway, back to what I want. Safety. Also caring and tenderness. Lots of other stuff - maybe including shared passions. But over and over again, safety.
The words are easy. The hard thing: living it. I wrote the song - one of the very first I wrote - in 1994, almost 20 years ago. I still don't have that kind of love in my life.
June 17, 2012
Blog on love. Love - one of those big topics.
Something I've so often thought about.
Love blog. Long ago, I wrote on
the importance of lessening anger.
Now I've shifted the focus to
And what is next? What comes after
this love blog, these thoughts on love,
on what's needed to love well?
Like accidental Canadian,